ICONIC landmarks in UAE

what to do?

Maybe do both
Or wait for daughter to visit in new year

we can be who we want to be if we believe enough

KL November 2017
I have just spent and inspirational week with delegates in KL
We were working on coaching through emotional inteeligence
Considering the risk context and the importance of risk aversion and risk tolerance
We viewed change process and how to influence with and without authourtiy
The group had three generations and the nationality base was predominantly BRUNEI and English the second language.
there have been some ”AH HA” moments during this journey and i have been thrilled with the outcomes of the entire experience
I wish i had seen this video before we closed the course as i would have shared it to demonstrate how essentia self belief , adaptability, resilience, conscientiousness, motivation, decision making and all the other EBW scales are in being successful
Teams are not just about doing together but also about thinking togehter
Groups of course have their place but as teams we can do wonders

Enjoy this clip


Bizarre though it may seem
In all the noise and disruption of this past week and the experience pf the terrace removal and partial return to normalcy
OR maybe that’s the reason i had Hong Kong garden and Happy House in my head
Was thinking about SIOUXSIE SIOUX and the BANSHEE’S
Hadn’t appreciated how familiar i was or am with her body of work
If you don’t know about her check it out you will be rewarded by the experience

She survived an horrendous child hood sexual assault which was not taken seriously and a dislocated family life
Rich material to draw on for her music and life journey

Siouxsie Sioux at 60 – Martin Gray Looks At Her Career

soft power and its advantages as well as influence

It is interesting that France is wearing the mantle of soft power in the West and UAE AD is baout to open THE LOUVRE 11th November

UAE has a soft power committee to develop this area of influence and awareness of other aspects of UAE
We are seeing the growth of RAK PEARLS and another form of culture and history in RAK

NOW a North Korean defector is proposing soft power is the only way to effect change for the better in NORTH KOREA
People power [remember AQUINO and Philippines] may be another way of describing this way of making change

Whether the defector changes his story or not it is enough that SOFT POWER is being spoken of
Especially when Putin is in IRAN just now

Life is an extraordinary journey indeed

North Korea defector urges US to use soft power

From the section Asia
Thae Yong-ho Image copyrightGETTY IMAGES
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Thae Yong-ho was North Korea’s deputy ambassador to Britain
A high-level defector has told the US Congress that spreading outside information in North Korea is the best way to deal with the regime.
Thae Yong-ho said undermining Kim Jong-un’s God-like status among his people could be key to weakening his rule.
North Koreans “don’t care about state propaganda but increasingly watch illegally imported South Korean movies and dramas,” he added.
Mr Thae was deputy ambassador to the UK before he defected last year.
He is one of the highest-ranking officials ever to defect from North Korea.
Mr Thae’s speech before US lawmakers comes as President Trump is due to embark on a trip to Asia, including South Korea.
Tensions between North Korea and the West have risen over the past months as Pyongyang has conducted several missile tests and claimed to have tested a hydrogen bomb.
In his first ever visit to Washington, Mr Thae told Congress: “We can educate (the) North Korean population to stand up by disseminating outside information.”
He also urged officials to meet at least once with North Korean leader Kim Jong-un, to understand his thinking and convince him that his nuclear programme is risking mass destruction.
“It is necessary to reconsider whether we have tried all non-military options before we decide that military action against North Korea is all that is left,” he said.
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Changes in North Korea meant that “contrary to the official policy and wish of the regime, the free markets are flourishing”, he said.
People were getting more access to outside information, including through micro SD cards which were small enough to be easily smuggled into the country, he added.
Young North Koreans have begun calling said devices “nose cards” because they can be smuggled even inside one’s nostrils, he cited as an example.
These developments “make it increasingly possible to think about civilian uprising in North Korea as more and more people gradually become informed about the reality of their living conditions,” he argued.
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Mr Thae urged US officials to meet Kim Jong-un at least once
“The US is spending billions of dollars to cope with the military threat and yet how much does the US spend each year on information activities involving North Korea in a year? Unfortunately, it may be a tiny fraction,” he said.
The rising tensions between Washington and Pyongyang have seen US President refer to Kim as “little rocket man,” while the North Korean leader called Trump a “mentally deranged dotard”.
North Korean defectors are one of the few sources of information about life in North Korea – yet critics caution that defector’s testimonies might not always be credible, and that some defectors have changed their stories in the past.

real women are various

women everywhere are beautiful courageous imperfect and various

the white blood plastic caricature is not who we are and not something we should or need to strive towards
embrace our diversity and shift away from western pressure and manipulation

Is this what real beauty looks like?
By Steven McIntosh
Entertainment reporter
31 October 2017
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An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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Mihaela took these photographs in Kathmandu in Nepal (left) and Reykjavik, Iceland
“Go to Google Images right now,” says photographer Mihaela Noroc, “and search ‘beautiful women’.”
I do as she tells me. Millions of results come back.
“What do you see?” she asks. “Very sexualised images, right?”
Yes. Many of the women in the top pictures are wearing high heels and revealing clothes, and most fit into the same physical mould – young, slim, blonde, perfect skin.
“So beauty all the time is like that,” Mihaela says. “Objectifying women, treating them in a very sexualised way, which is unfortunate.
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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L-R: Portraits taken in Germany, Italy and France
“Women are not like that. We have our stories, our struggles, our power, but we just need to be represented, because young women, they see only images like this every day, so they need to have more confidence that they can look the way they look and be considered beautiful.
“But,” she adds, “Google is us, because we are all influencing these images.”
Mihaela has just released her first photography book, Atlas of Beauty, which features 500 of her own portraits of women.
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC, INDIA
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Pushkar, India: “I was happy to see women have joined public forces all over the world”
The Romanian photographer’s definition of beauty, however, appears to be that there is no definition. The women are a variety of ages, professions and backgrounds.
“People are interested in my pictures because they portray people around us, everyday people around the street,” Mihaela explains.
“Usually when we talk about beauty and women, we have this very high, unachievable way of portraying them.
“So my pictures are very natural and simple. And this is, weirdly, a surprise. Because usually we are not seen like that.”
Each of the book’s 500 portraits has a caption with information about where it was taken, and, in many cases, the subject.
The locations are varied, to put it mildly. They include Nepal, Tibet, Ethiopia, Italy, North Korea, Germany, Mexico, India, Afghanistan, the UK, the US, and the Amazon rainforest.
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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Mihaela took these photographs in Colombia (left) and Milan, Italy
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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Captain Berenice Torres is a helicopter pilot for the Mexican Federal Police
Some locations, however, proved more problematic than others.
“I approach women I want to photograph on the street. I explain what my project is about. Sometimes I get yes as an answer, sometimes I get no, that really depends on the country I’m in,” she explains.
“When you go to a more conservative society, a woman is going to have a lot of pressure from society to be a certain way, and her day-to-day life is carefully watched by somebody else.
“So she’s not going to accept being photographed very easily, maybe she’s going to need permission from the male part of her family.
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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Sisters Abby and Angela were photographed in New York
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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A guide at a military museum in Pyongyang, North Korea
“In other parts of the world they are extremely careful because there might be issues concerning their safety, like in Colombia. Because they had Pablo Escobar and the mafia for so many years.
“So they say ‘OK, so you’re going to take my picture but I’m probably going to be kidnapped after that because you’re part of the mafia and you’re not who you’re saying you are’.”
She adds: “If somebody were to start this project just with men, it would be much easier, because they don’t have to ask permission from their wives, sisters or mothers.”
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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Left: Pokhara, Nepal. Right: “This is what shopping looks like for many people around the world,” Mihaela says of her portrait taken in Nampan, Myanmar
Mihaela says she occasionally puts pictures through Photoshop, but not for the reasons you might think.
“When you take a picture, it’s usually raw, and that means it’s very blank, like a painting, you don’t have the colours you had in the reality.
“So I try to make it as vibrant and colourful as it was in the original place. But I’m not making anyone skinnier or anything like that, never, because that’s very painful.
“Because I also suffered as a woman growing up from all kinds of difficulties, I wanted to be skinnier, look a certain way, and that was also related to the fake images I saw in day-to-day life.”
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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Idomeni Refugee Camp, Greece: This woman and her daughters fled the war in Syria
It’s safe to say Mihaela’s photography book is quite different tonally to, say, Kim Kardashian’s 2015 book of selfies.
“These days, the bloggers, the famous people of our planet have set this unachievable and fake beauty standard, and it’s very difficult for us as women to relate to that,” she says.
“Kim Kardashian has 100 million followers on her Instagram page and I have 200,000, so imagine the difference – it’s astonishing. But slowly, slowly, I think the message of natural and simple beauty will be spread around the world.”
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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L-R: Portraits taken at the Pompidou Centre in Paris, Omo Valley in Ethiopia and Delphi, Greece
So what’s the best piece of advice Mihaela could give to anyone keen to get into photography? Buy a good quality camera? Learn about lenses and angles?
Not exactly.
“Buy good shoes,” she laughs, “because you’re going to walk and explore a lot.”
An image from Atlas of BeautyImage copyrightMIHAELA NOROC
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Lisa was backpacking through Berlin when Mihaela met her
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It’s deadly to fall in love with your own voice, but the higher you go, the more you need to talk effectively.

Brevity with clarity is gold in a frenetic world.

presence is going with even when challenging ideas

The top 10 rules for talking like a leader:

The only reason to open your mouth is to make something better. (If you only remember one rule, make it this one.)
Be brief. The longer you talk, the less effective you become. The Gettysburg address was 272 words.
Be brief and ask, “What else would you like to know?”
Stay present with others. Presence is “going with” even when challenging ideas. You aren’t present when pushing your own agenda at the expense of others.
Ask people what they need to know, before telling them what they need to know.
Stay on topic. Chasing rabbits is for dogs.
Explain yourself. Don’t give people the benefit of your conclusions without explaining how you found them.
Include purpose when giving direction. Busyness is a fog that obscures the big picture.
Tell stories. (Remember rule #2.)
Stay calm if you expect to connect. Strong emotion intimidates